August 7, 2023

Mary: When Your Kid’s Worries Disrupt Bedtime

In today’s episode, Mary shares how her 4 year old son, Oliver seems to be struggling after the loss of his infant cousin.

Oliver began to show signs of regression with bedtime during which he seems to experience high anxiety and fears. Sleep regression is normal and very understandable when dealing with something as big as death. Mary explains how Oliver is most open and communicative at bedtime. While it may seem intuitive to re-enforce this behavior so that Oliver continues to open up at bedtime, it’s actually important to not keep reinforcing the behavior of doing this right before sleep. Instead, keep the intention to connect to your child, but change the time and place for it.

7:35 Regression in your child’s sleep is normal when dealing with difficult times

11:40 Common for kids to open up most around bedtime. Parenting can feel counterintuitive to stop your child from expressing themselves at bedtime and switch that openness to a different time of the day.

16:40 The worry box or the worry tree

26:03 Bedtime techniques/mindfulness practices

Leslie-ism: Help your child to understand: feelings come and feelings go.

Here are two books mentioned in this episode.

Starbright: Meditations for Children by Maureen Garth
Jibberwillies at Night by RachelVail (Author) and Yumi Heo (Illustrator)

Credits: Is My Child a Monster is produced by Alletta Cooper, Dale Rubury, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Public relations is handled by Tink Media. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O’Reilly. by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.


[Music: The Wilds Beyond by L-Ray Music]

Transcribed by edited by Eric Rubury

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